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We need the story in our head to match our reality.

Then only we’ll know how to be truly happy.

There are two ways you can go about this:

  1. You can either work on your story;
  2. Or you can work on changing your reality.

It might not seem like it, but I think the second option is easier of the two.

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The Mirror Ritual

8 Things to say to yourself in the mirror everyday:

  1. Look at you! Don’t you look smashing today!
  2. You are enough. You matter. You belong here as much as anybody else in the world does. You are going to be okay.
  3. Life doesn’t happen to you, it happens for you. Look at this beautiful day! The universe has worked all night to create it specially for you.
  4. No matter what happens, you’ll always find love & acceptance in me.
  5. When it comes to following your dreams, you don’t owe anything to anyone. Don’t let anybody guilt-trap you. If the consequences rest with you, surely should the decision.
  6. So, put yourself first. Set high standards. Respect yourself. Don’t beat yourself up. And most importantly- Don’t settle; especially, when you know you deserve better.
  7. The more you take care of yourself, the kinder the world will become. And when you’ve been showered with such kindness, remember to take care of the world, too.
  8. Always respect other people’s opinions and boundaries. Never assume to know, what‘s best for anybody other than yourself.

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I hope this post was somewhat useful. Well, I’m gonna start with this ritual from tomorrow. So, I’d love to hear more from you.

What’s your mirror ritual? What’s your favourite affirmation?

Kindly share it in the comments.

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Hiatus

I want to thank all the followers and visitors of Meliorate. Your kindness, encouragement and never ending support has been truly inspirational. It was an honor for me, if I was able to put a smile on your face, be part of your healing process, or, was an online source of support in your difficult times.

I’ve always wanted to be a writer and you guys have given me the hope that, one day maybe I could become one. I know it’s gonna be a long way and I know I have a lot left to learn. So, I’m taking another step in that direction by announcing a two month long hiatus from poetry. May this time away from writing serve it’s intended purpose:- Giving me more freedom to pursue my dreams in the future.

I hope that when I return, you guys will still be here and we could resume this journey with a renewed zeal, aspiration and hopefully with lesser burdens.

I’m thankful for everything.

With a ton of admiration and love,

-Stephen.

P.S:- I won’t be writing anything new. But, I’m still gonna be uploading the daily quotes.

Thank You!

Hello friends,

I started this blog one month ago, on 09/09/16. 

Many of the things are still the same. I’m still lagging far behind studies. I still have occasional anxiety attacks and I still get depressed sometimes. 

But, for the majority of the time I’m happy. And I have this wonderful blogging community to thank for. 

So, thank you! I’m grateful to all the readers & the followers.

I’ve made some positive changes during this month:

  • I’m writing more frequently. This is my 30th post on the blog. (56th post overall.)
  • I’ve started keeping a gratitude journal.
  • I’m meditating daily now. 
  • I’m exercising more frequently now. 
  • I’ve discovered some amazing bloggers. Elsie Bowen, Frank Solanki, eyes+words, bits of poems to name a few. Thanks for your beautiful & inspiring posts. 

Thank you so much guys!

Needs vs Consumption

To meet the rising consumption, we have to produce more. 

To produce more, we’ve to work more, spend more time & invest more resources. 

To earn profit & to recover the resources invested, we have to sell more. 

To sell more, we’ve to convince people that they need to consume more. 

Then you come home with little more money. And what do we do with our extra income? We consume more. 

Generally, the marginal money earned by us is meagre, when compared with extra time invested combined with mental stress suffered & the pressure it puts on our relationships.

So, what this cycle does? It transfers value of your time and the consumer’s money to somebody up the chain.

That’s how the rich gets richer. (While you stay stuck in debt.)

It often seems, that we as a race are racing after some thing intangible- something which is not defined. What are we working towards, really? 

Are the parameters we use for measuring our success, relevant anymore? Is the extra production done, reaching the people who really need it?

What are our needs? Do we really need TV in each of our rooms? How many cars do we need? Do we really need to replace our perfectly fine phones, with their newer versions, just cause the manufacturer has launched them? 

Haven’t majority of us, comfortably fulfilling our needs already? Then what are we working towards?

The things we own end up owning us. 

The Conscious vs The Unconscious

I’ve come to realise, how incredibly difficult it is to make good habits and how easy it is to succumb to bad ones. I want to become a better person. I want to build my character. I want to change. My mind keeps nudging me to get better. But when it is faced with tough decisions & urges of the body, the mental strength nudging me forward miraculously disappears. On the unconscious level the mind refuses to cooperate. Every time I do something I regret, I become more depressed and effort to change gets harder each time. I’ve come to realise that conscious mind is no match for the unconscious. You can’t be conscious all the time and that seems to be the problem. 

Meditation increases your consciousness over time. So, I think it’s time to start practicing meditation regularly. 

Panic. How to handle it?

Well, you can ask yourself following questions. 

(I assure you your panic will be gone by the time you read the last question.)

1.) As an individual, I’m one amongst 7 billion people on the planet. Our solar system is one amongst billion others in Milky Way. Milky Way is one amongst billion other galaxies in the universe. 

So technically, I’m just a dot on a rock revolving around a star. A star, which itself is a dot in the universe.

Now ask yourself, the problem that you’re panicking over; is it really significant?

2.) Okay. Let’s assume your problem is a significant one. But, is there anything you can do about it? Or is it totally out of your control?

3.) What’s the worst that could happen? Is there any possibility that you’ll still be okay afterwards? 

(By okay I mean, will you still be alive?)

4.) What will happen, if you did nothing, but simply kept breathing for 10 minutes?

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Truth be told, there’s no order to the universe. Panic & chaos are at the very chore of it. 

We are living on a beautiful planet in midst of the raging hurricane of the universe. The least we can do is appreciate how lucky we are, instead of panicking over our petty troubles. 

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This post is in response to The Daily Post: Panic

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